Checklists can make even something as simple as making the bed feel satisfying. After my mom passed away, I found myself—as usual—making lists. Plan some kind of simple family memorial (she passed during covid)—check. Sort through her things and clean out her apartment—check. Arrange for donation pick up, write a eulogy, pick up her ashes, cancel subscriptions, close her bank account—check, check, and check. A pretty standard list of tasks to be completed when a loved one passes. But I discovered I also had another list.